Romance and realism | Open thread

Two bestselling authors have recently told women looking for love to be more ready to compromise. Good advice?

Joanna Trollope has urged women to abandon their unrealistic expectations when looking for a partner – echoing the sentiment of the recent bestseller by US author Lori Gottlieb: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough.

Trollope claims that “absurd” expectations are leading women to shun marriage: women should not wait, she says, to find their dream man who earns £100,000, can cut down trees, play the Spanish guitar, make love all night and cook a cheese souffle. The twice-married and divorced novelist, 66, appeals instead for women to be more compromising and realistic.

What do you think? Is this a syndrome limited to women, or do men, too, waste time and turn down perfectly good opportunities for satisfying, loving relationships by holding out unrealistic expectations of the perfect partner?

Or is this counsel of compromise simply advice to settle for second-best – and are there some essential qualities you should never compromise on?

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